How parenting works.
Despite what you’ve heard, I can not read your mind. So, talk to me.
This week in my ask box, anything goes. Anons welcome.
Just be sure to take off your shoes in the foyer.
(gifset via redmuffinentertainment)
As always, my first piece of advice is generally: Don’t take my advice.
But, if you were to ignore that, I’d say the key is consistency.
Pick one of the many things you’ve listed up there and stick with it. If, say, you put him in a time out (though 21 months might be a tad young for that to have any effect, just FYI) and he resumes the behavior as soon as he’s free, put him right back in.
All that said, experts say positive reinforcement tends to work better with kids in your son’s age range. So, rather than punish him for biting, reward him for the other things he does. And that reward can be as simple as a laugh or a “Yay!” Not something grandiose, however, like a vacation home in Fiji.
Those same experts also say a rigid daily schedule could help ease his frustration, etc.—things that tend to manifest as biting. So, if he’s not on a regular nap and meal schedule, get him on one.
If all that fails, that Hannibal Lecter mask might be a good Plan C.
Leaning in so hard I’m falling over
Holy crap. This is so funny/sad.
I have very important conversations about parenting, people.
Here’s one I had with my friend Amy of Mom Spark.
Bill Cosby, Fatherhood
Recently, Tumblr person gazelledeerdoe asked a question about breastfeeding. She’s not a mom, so her question to me (in response to one of my posts) was innocent—she genuinely didn’t know what breastfeeding mothers put up with. I felt our exchange was funny and lighthearted, and she now understands their plight.
Unfortunately, because of her initial question, she’s now getting a flood of hate messages, including at least one person who suggested that she kill herself.
I know my original post has gone into the Tumblr ether, so asking folks who may be just now discovering it to stop attacking this girl is like screaming into a hurricane. But, I’m gonna do it anyway.
FUCKING STOP HARASSING THIS GIRL!
And, if any of you care, please send her a non-anon message of support. Let her know the anon haters are the worst kind of cowards, not worth her time or energy. The people who matter are the ones who show their face, who understand we’re all learning and who support the blameless.
I think I left the anon option on from the last time I fielded questions. So, why not ask or tell me something? No topic is off-limits, but I tend to delete submissions from:
“Kids are little lying sacks of giggles. It doesn’t mean they’re evil or you’ve raised them wrong — they seem to learn it automatically, like breathing, apparently.”
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That’s true about George Washington, though.