The Daddy Complex

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I read your blog and HowToBeADad every morning when I take a break from pretending to work. Need advice that I can't seem to find much info on from a man's POV: I am a dad (13 happy months in to a very chunk-like baby boy). My wife's dad and step-mother are completely self-centered, arrogant, pushy, toxic, and thankfully out of state. Wife now is taking a stand on her own accord, but I can sense the battle for middle earth is upon us. Any advice before we take this plunge?

Asked by Anonymous

I need some clarification. She’s taking a stand against what exactly? Battle for Middle Earth over what? Just their personalities? Or are they, like doing something more egregious than just being assholes? Like are they telling you what to do or trying to steal the baby? Wait…

Oh, my God! Is your father-in-law the Goblin King? If so, tell him I think Hunky Dory is, like, one of the best albums ever.

Without knowing the specifics, I’ll offer these two pieces of advice, the first of which is my standard bit of wisdom:

  1. I barely know what I’m doing, so keep that in mind.
  2. If your in-laws are truly “toxic,” keep them from having anything to do with your child. Or monitor their interaction with him. Sure, an uncomfortable conversation lies in your near future, but your baby is more important than the resulting awkward silence during Thanksgiving dinner.