The Daddy Complex

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When I see a bully on the playground and the parent won’t step in, I have no problem reprimanding that child. And I do it by quietly saying to them that I’ll teleport into their room when they’re asleep and fill their mouth with ravenous spiders. That way, when they run to tell their parents, the mom or dad won’t believe them. Because who would say that to a child, right?

I would.

New Dads Feel More Attractive After Birth Of Child

Once a baby is born, dads get smoking hot… in their own mind.

So claims a recent study published in the Journal of Gender Studies. While the scope of the study seems somewhat limited (182 participants, all newlyweds with no previous children), the findings are interesting. The study’s lead author, UCSB Professor Alicia Cast, was quoted by the Vancouver Sun:

I was talking about this paper with my husband and he commented on the attention he got when he was seen in public holding our son after he was born. Like, “Aren’t you a good dad,” “Look at that new dad with his baby.”

The study also offers this little nugget about what happened during the three interviews that took place over the course of the study:

Wives who had a child in their first year of marriage start out with less positive views of their attractiveness compared to wives who did not have a child between [the first and second interviews].

So, guys think they’re more attractive, women (at least the ones who had they babies early) feel less attractive. Interestingly, though, that confidence in men wears off after a year, probably because being puked on and shit on for 12 months tends to deflate your ego.

As I straddle him, I tell him wanting something does not mean you get it. Though a mature concept, I try to burn into his mind with repetition. I say it again and again, calm, steady. Yet even as he fights against me, I realize I sometimes want things so badly I’m moved to fits and tears, too. Maybe in those moments, I need someone to pin me down, to force my eyes to look into theirs while they calmly repeat, ‘Wanting does not equal getting, wanting does not equal getting, wanting does not equal getting.’

From my latest piece for Huffington Post, which some of you will remember as the story that inspired a self-professed family therapist to go after me a bit