The Daddy Complex

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I recall you posting something about taking on the protector role upon the birth of your sons - rather than being the gushing, weepy dad type....but I can't find it. Do you have a link?

Asked by mummyfoxbabybunny

I kinda did three.

I did part 1 and part 2 on my site, then condensed them for a post on How To Be A Dad.

I also made it a section in my upcoming book, Calm The F*ck Down… if you, y’know, wanted to wait for that… or not.

According to a sleep deprivation study conducted by the University of Pennsylvania, after two weeks of getting only 6 hours of sleep per night (or less), you experience the cognitive equivalent of being legally drunk.

So, parents are basically drunkards.

mominleggings:

actorswithactionfigures:

"My best day had to be the day after I wrapped Guardians of the Galaxy. I was very homesick and coming home to my wife, and my home, and to my son, who was at the time 13 months old. My wife told me there’s a chance he won’t recognize you—but that’s okay that happens all the time. He doesn’t know, he might be a little shy…"

Chris Pratt is out to explode some ovaries this morning.

Fatherhood summarized.

(via atx-mom)

High-res I know you’re freaking out.
You have this baby that needs you to survive. YOU. And you don’t know if you have the ability to help this little one grow into a functional human being. Though you’ve been through rough stuff before, you now have an actual life to care for—a delicate, innocent life. But, see, here’s the thing…
You can do it.
Not only can you do it, you will. You’ll kick ass at it. Like, major ass. You might not feel like it as it’s happening, but you will.
You’ll trust you instincts, you’ll reach out for help when you need it, you’ll take time for yourself every so often, you’ll forgive yourself for getting mad or depressed and you’ll allow yourself to celebrate your victories, no matter how insignificant they seem.
You are a parent. You are not perfect, but your baby doesn’t need perfect. Your baby needs you. Flaws, quirks and all.
And the one thing, the most important thing, you can offer that baby is love. You honestly don’t need to know anything else because your love will lead you to the answers you seek. It will be the divining rod that points the way as you help this baby—your baby—grow.
So, chin up. Trust yourself. You’ve got this, okay?
You’ve got this.
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I know you’re freaking out.

You have this baby that needs you to survive. YOU. And you don’t know if you have the ability to help this little one grow into a functional human being. Though you’ve been through rough stuff before, you now have an actual life to care for—a delicate, innocent life. But, see, here’s the thing…

You can do it.

Not only can you do it, you will. You’ll kick ass at it. Like, major ass. You might not feel like it as it’s happening, but you will.

You’ll trust you instincts, you’ll reach out for help when you need it, you’ll take time for yourself every so often, you’ll forgive yourself for getting mad or depressed and you’ll allow yourself to celebrate your victories, no matter how insignificant they seem.

You are a parent. You are not perfect, but your baby doesn’t need perfect. Your baby needs you. Flaws, quirks and all.

And the one thing, the most important thing, you can offer that baby is love. You honestly don’t need to know anything else because your love will lead you to the answers you seek. It will be the divining rod that points the way as you help this baby—your baby—grow.

So, chin up. Trust yourself. You’ve got this, okay?

You’ve got this.

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I read your blog and HowToBeADad every morning when I take a break from pretending to work. Need advice that I can't seem to find much info on from a man's POV: I am a dad (13 happy months in to a very chunk-like baby boy). My wife's dad and step-mother are completely self-centered, arrogant, pushy, toxic, and thankfully out of state. Wife now is taking a stand on her own accord, but I can sense the battle for middle earth is upon us. Any advice before we take this plunge?

Asked by Anonymous

I need some clarification. She’s taking a stand against what exactly? Battle for Middle Earth over what? Just their personalities? Or are they, like doing something more egregious than just being assholes? Like are they telling you what to do or trying to steal the baby? Wait…

Oh, my God! Is your father-in-law the Goblin King? If so, tell him I think Hunky Dory is, like, one of the best albums ever.

Without knowing the specifics, I’ll offer these two pieces of advice, the first of which is my standard bit of wisdom:

  1. I barely know what I’m doing, so keep that in mind.
  2. If your in-laws are truly “toxic,” keep them from having anything to do with your child. Or monitor their interaction with him. Sure, an uncomfortable conversation lies in your near future, but your baby is more important than the resulting awkward silence during Thanksgiving dinner.