The Daddy Complex

Potty talk? Ignore it, discourage it, forbid it, or just isn't an issue with your five year old boys?

Asked by Anonymous

I tell them there’s a time and a place for it and, generally, they don’t know either of those things, so it’s best to stop using it. We both tell them they’ll start to understand when it’s okay as they get older.

That said, some of our best bedtime stories involve lots of farts.

Pushing The Envelope

Me:
Let's try something new today. If you ask for something and someone—me, your mom, your teacher—says no, ask why first. Get more information. Because there's always a reason and it might keep you from flipping out.

Wyatt:
Okay, let's try it now. Papa, can I have ice cream for breakfast?

My 21 month old will not stop biting, hitting or throwing things. We've tried talking to him, sitting him in time out, distraction, yelling and most recently banishment (sat in a closed off area of the house to calm down) but he's right back to the act as soon as he's out of punishment! Any advice?

Asked by Anonymous

As always, my first piece of advice is generally: Don’t take my advice.

But, if you were to ignore that, I’d say the key is consistency.

Pick one of the many things you’ve listed up there and stick with it. If, say, you put him in a time out (though 21 months might be a tad young for that to have any effect, just FYI) and he resumes the behavior as soon as he’s free, put him right back in.

All that said, experts say positive reinforcement tends to work better with kids in your son’s age range. So, rather than punish him for biting, reward him for the other things he does. And that reward can be as simple as a laugh or a “Yay!” Not something grandiose, however, like a vacation home in Fiji.

Those same experts also say a rigid daily schedule could help ease his frustration, etc.—things that tend to manifest as biting. So, if he’s not on a regular nap and meal schedule, get him on one.

If all that fails, that Hannibal Lecter mask might be a good Plan C.

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Put anything you want in my ask box. Questions, comments, rants, screeds, fears, spells, recommendations, curses, life advice, recipes—whatever you want. No topic is off-limits (almost) and I’ll leave anon on all week.

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Episode 13.5 - David Vienna

I don’t always blather, but when I do, I make sure it’s recorded.

[This is the same interview I did with Chris Read (aka Canadian Dad) a little while ago. It was just reposted on the Life of Dad site, so I thought I’d link it ICYMI.]